Yes, it's another one. And this one, like the last, is purely for discussion purposes, with no real or implied relation to any existent situation. Ok.
So let's say that you made some big mistakes in your life. Let's say that you used to hang out with the wrong crowd; criminals, druggie types, panhandlers, pickpockets, loose women, etc. That was many years ago, and since then, you've cleaned up your act and worked very hard to make your way into a respectable station in life. You are not at all proud of your past actions or associations, and you wish to leave them as far in the past as you possibly can.
So let's say that one of your "old friends" (Let's call him Roy, shall we?) has relentlessly tracked you down through the years, to the point that your significant other refers to him as your "stalker." Now, let's say that Roy has threatened harm (and once actually did harm) to you and/or to someone you cared about in the past. And obviously, your "old friendship" ended on a sour note.
Now, a decade and some change later, Roy has contacted you again, even after being told that you don't want to talk to him. He wants to "be friends." You have refused his calls enough that he doesn't contact you by phone anymore, but now he wants to "at least be internet friends."
What would you do?
Would it make a difference if you knew that Roy had a diagnosis of mental/emotional problems, to the point of getting disability for it? What if you knew he was still on drugs?
What if, instead of continuing his drug use, Roy had gone to church and gotten "saved?"
Would it make a difference if you knew that Roy lived nearby, and not 100 miles away?
In your opinion, would being "internet friends" with Roy assuage his need to communicate with you, or would it encourage him to push for more contact?
Discuss. Rinse. Repeat. ;-)
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
3 comments:
It will encourage him and he will want more. The fact the he is "saved and found God"... might scare me more!! LOL
Roy needs to acknowledge that you're engaged & about to become a married lady, and respect/honor your clearly-stated wish to have no further communication or contact.
It's my experience to Stay Away....any communication will encourage him more. A more normal person would realise you have moved on, have a new life, are busy, and would have a new life with new friends themselves so they wouldn't be looking up old ones.
And yeah, I've talked to a lot of pple who have said the same thing you did and apparently the job search is a lot harder than I thought. I just lucked out with those internships and thought it was that easy to get a job!
Post a Comment